What is Bullying?
Continuous, intentional, and unwanted aggressive behavior that involves a perceived/actual imbalance of power.
Types of Bullying:
Physical, which is hitting, kicking, pushing, pinching, tripping, and damaging property.
Verbal, which is teasing, name calling, racist or sexual remarks, intimidation, or insults.
Cyber, is using computers, tablets, ipads, and smartphones, to access social media, instant messaging, texts, websites and other online platforms in order to defame, insult, tear down, spread rumors/lies, and/or embarrass someone.
Social, which is harder to detect and mostly done behind the victims back is lying and spreading rumors, negative facial or physical gestures, playing mean jokes to embarrass and/or humiliate, mimicking, intentionally excluding someone and encouraging others to do so as well, damaging someone's social reputation or social acceptance.
Signs of Bullying:
-Changes in sleep patterns
-Changes in eating patterns
-Easily angered or easy to cry
-Feels sick in the morning
-Suddenly becomes withdrawn
-Becomes aggressive and unreasonable
-Refuses to talk about what is wrong
-Begins to target siblings
-Continually 'loses' money or starts stealing.
-Has unexplained bruises, cuts, scratches
-Comes home with missing or damaged belongings or clothes
-Comes home hungry.
-Doesn't want to go to school
-Changes their route to school or are frightened of walking to school
-Doesn't want to go to school on the bus
-School grades begin to fall.
-Often alone or excluded from friendship groups at school
-A frequent target for teasing, mimicking or ridicule at school
-Unable to speak up in class and appears insecure or frightened
How to Help a Bullied Child:
- Encourage your child to communicate daily by asking open-ended, probing questions and then giving your undivided attention. Talk to your child about your day as well ( the good and the not so good). This will give them the confidence to open up about their day. Try not to be judgmental or overbearing. Remember that your child is growing into an individual with their own mind and thought process. Ask about their friends and how they feel about school.
Get the Facts
- Find out what happened and where. Ask if there were any witnesses and if it was reported. Find out who was involved and how often the bullying happens. Take notes, screenshots, and any other proof.
Contact the School
- Find out if the school is aware of the bullying
- Make an appointment with the teacher and/or principal
- Research the schools policy on bullying
- Take any notes with dates and times and any other proof that you may have to the meeting (i.e, screenshots, recordings)
- Ask what is being done and ask for a follow-up to ensure the situation is being addressed
- Advise the child to notify an adult whenever they are bullied
- Advise the child to not retaliate
- Advise the child to have a neutral response to the bully. Click fogging to learn about this great technique.
- Advise the child to try to avoid the bully if possible and stay close to an adult if bully is around.
- Encourage the child to join groups of other young people (clubs or sports) either inside or outside of school.
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